Friday, March 8, 2013

Peer Pressure and the Exodus


The Jews were redeemed from Egypt because they stood up to “peer pressure”! It says in Vayikra Rabba 32:5 that they were redeemed due to the fact that they did not change their names, their clothing and their language. Despite the corrupt influences all around them, they maintained their Jewish identities and did what was right.
We know that most decisions of our teens are influenced by their peers. In fact, research at Temple University attempted to ascertain why teens who are generally good make bad decisions when they are with their friends. Participants, (young teens, college students and adults), in the study were asked to play a video game that simulated driving and asked them to make decisions about slowing down at yellow lights or speeding up while in a a brain scanner. Half of the time they were told that friends were watching them play in the other room. Young teens ran about 40% more yellow lights and had 60% more crashes when they knew friends were watching. “The regions of the brain associated with reward showed greater activity when they were playing in view of their friends. It was as if the presence of friends, even in the next room, prompted the brain's reward system to drown out any warning signals about the risk , tipping the balance toward the reward. The presence of peers activated the reward circuitry in the brain of adolescents that it didn't do in the case of adults,” said Laurence Steinberg the author of the study. This effect of peer pressure was even felt when friends were in the other room- without any coercion!
We, therefore, in our Advisory program have had three programs this past week that focused on the negative and positive influences of peer pressure.

Reflections
Our 6th graders experienced the Reflections program. Reflections is a Teen Improvisational Theater program run out of the Bergen County Division of Family Guidance. Actors from local high schools are trained to do “improv” on social/emotional topics to present to younger students by Mrs. Staci Block, their director. Together with Mrs. Block we planned this year’s program to cover the topic of Peer Pressure, as the students are in the middle of a unit in Advisory on Friendship and Relationships. Students were able to volunteer to act, and interact with the actors as they acted out two scenarios- a child feeling peer pressure to misbehave in class and a child feeling peer pressure at his own house to go against his parents’ house rules. Our own Elie Fried, Max Krantz, Eliana Suldan and Adam Varnai played the roles of teachers, parents and students in the improvisational scenarios- without any practice! Our sixth graders were able to relate to the scenarios and were able to identify with pressures they often feel to do the wrong thing. We discussed the strength it takes to stand up to peer pressure and how to effectively do so. Reflections allows students are able to get the message in a humorous and creative way.

Rockets into Roses
Our 7th graders are in the middle of a unit in their Advisory program called, “Do Not Stand Idly By”- the importance of acting when one sees injustice – whether in one’s school or even at the world at large. We have discussed how to do what what is right in spite of peer pressure to do the wrong thing. Students have learned that Political Action is one way they can act when they see injustice. As part of this unit, the students learned about the rocket attacks from Gaza into cities in Israel, as presented by Mr. Avinoam Segal, the Shaliach from the Federation. Since that program students have been learning the skills of what it takes to be an “upstander” instead of a bystander when one sees wrong happening. This unit is culminating in the students taking what they learned and putting it into practice. They will partner with an organization called United for Israel that sponsors the Rockets into Roses program, as presented by Mrs. Nomi Haberman. Yaron Bob, an Israeli artist, creates metal art sculptures and jewelry out of Kassam rockets that have landed in Israel. He crafts beautiful roses with the message perseverance and transforms objects of war into objects of peace. Please see the following links for a taste of their project:
All proceeds from the sales go to building shelters and supporting those who have suffered attacks. The seventh graders will be raising money to purchase a rose to present to a local politician along with letters they have written about the need for America to understand the daily fear Israelis feel regarding potential attacks and to request their standing by Israel. Stay tuned as we update you about the project in the coming weeks.

JCC – Teen Leadership Conference- Middle School
Fourteen of our 7th and 8th graders were privileged to attend the JCC Teen Leadership Conference for Middle School students on Friday March 1st. The topic of the conference, coordinated by the JCC and the Bergen Family Center, was Tolerance and Standing Up to Bullying. The entire conference was planned and implemented by a committee of middle schools students from eight schools. Two of our own 8th graders, Dina Jawetz and Jessica Orski, played a significant role in planning the conference. The topics addressed at the conference through hands-on interactive workshops were cyberbullying, the emotional effects of bullying and bullying intervention. The effect of peer pressure on bullying and the importance of being “upstanders” were also highlighted. Students also had the opportunity to question a panel of adults who were once bullied. It was a unique opportunity to interact with students from other schools and put our heads together to target this problem. The slogan of the conference was “Be the change.” Students came away knowing that they have a responsibility to go back to their schools and represent all that they learned by “being the change they wish to see in the world.”

It says in the Haggadah, “B'chol dor v'dor, chayav adam lirotet atzmo kilu hu yatza mimitzrayim” “In every generation a person is obligated to see himself as if he himself left Egypt.” Through focusing on peer pressure and its challenges our students are emulating the yotzei Mitzrayim who stood up to the “peer pressure” that surrounded them.

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