In the past few days, Rabbi Leo Dee has come to my attention. I received a link to a video of a musical performance by Yeshivat Ohr Yehuda, where Lucy Dee had taught (https://youtu.be/OcTVYmvI1cw?si=uMzngNx8Ga04D_J9). I actually had not realized that the video was to commemorate her first yahrzeit with her two daughters, on Chol HaMoed Pesach, until I noticed Rabbi Dee singing with intensity in the audience.
The second time Rabbi Dee “appeared” was in a message I received:
*COUNTERPROTEST OF ANTI-ISRAEL RALLY PLANNED AT NY STOCK EXCHANGE*
In an initiative led by Rabbi Leo Dee, college students from across Manhattan are planning to counterprotest an anti-Israel rally this *Monday, April 15, at 2:00PM.* The rally is scheduled to take place in front of the New York Stock Exchange.
Those joining the counterprotest will be wearing *American flags* in an effort to capture the anti-American reactions of the protesters and demonstrate that *anti-Zionism and anti-Americanism go hand in hand.* All those who can come show their support are encouraged to join!
Considering how the yahrzeit of his family member was soon approaching and how he had appeared in my inbox twice in a matter of a few days, I was spurred on to read a book he authored, that I had bought a few months ago at the Yeshiva University Seforim Sale, (that I had not yet had the chance to read). Transforming the World- The Jewish Impact on Modernity, was actually a book he had written in 2016, but reprinted it after the death of his wife and daughters.
Rabbi Dee begins in his introduction by stressing that a Jew’s role in this world is to bring Shalom- to both the world and to himself (peace of mind). If one looks at our tefillot one might notice that “the bottom line of all Jewish prayers- the Amidah, Grace after Meals, the Priestly Blessing, Kaddish and more” is Shalom.
How does someone who has gone through what Rabbi Dee has gone through maintain a life of Shalom- peace of mind? Later in the book Rabbi Dee discusses that we are inundated in this world by “the news.” The news is whatever sells- so it is usually something shocking, or upsetting. “The ‘news’ activates these base instincts in us, but they are ultimately destructive feelings. They may arouse us in the short time, but they leave us feeling dissatisfied with our lot. So, what’s the alternative? Prayer… Prayer is the antithesis of the news. While the news makes us feel discontent with all that we have, prayer generates a feeling of contentment that we live…Prayer is taking the time out during a busy day to stop and appreciate how good life is. And this is so important in a world where the “news” is constantly telling us how brutal and unfair life is.”
I was reading these words last night, as I had just heard from my husband returning from shul, about Iran’s attack on Israel. I was overwhelmed by feelings of “how brutal and unfair life is.” And, then I took out my Tehillim and began to daven. And, from that moment on, a sliver of hope appeared.
I rewatched the music video of Yeshivat Ohr Yehuda, which features some scenes of the Dee family and even Lucy Dee speaking saying “I love you.” I listened more carefully and noticed they were singing words from Lecha Dodi. While I sing Lecha Dodi every Friday night, and know what the words mean, I never truly appreciated what the words are really saying. Hearing them sung in this video changed their entire meaning for me.
They sing:
רַב לָךְ שֶֽׁבֶת בְּעֵֽמֶק הַבָּכָא. וְהוּא יַחֲמוֹל עָלַֽיִךְ חֶמְלָה
Long enough have you dwelt in the valley of tears! He will show
you abundant mercy
And, Rabbi Dee says, (translated) “Our valley of tears was in the past Pesach. But, Hashem gave me the great חמלה - mercy- to see how much you all loved Lucy and I know how much she loved you. People ask me what if you had just left ten minutes earlier on the day of the attack? And, I respond, I don’t ask ‘what if’ except for with one thing: What if Hashem knows better than I do? That gives me comfort.”
They go on to sing another stanza of Lecha Dodi:
הִתְעוֹרְרִי הִתְעוֹרְרִי. כִּי בָא אוֹרֵךְ
קֽֽוּמִי אֽוֹרִי.
עֽוּרִי עֽוּרִי שִׁיר דַבֵּֽרִי. כְּבוֹד ה' עָלַֽיִךְ נִגְלָה
Wake up, Wake up, for your light has come; arise
and shine! Awake, awake, utter a song; the Lord’s glory is revealed
upon you.
In essence, Rabbi Dee is saying that it is his connection with G-d that has given him the ability to wake up again and see light among the darkness.
And, the song continues:
וְהָיוּ לִמְשסָּה שאסָיִךְ. וְרָחֲקוּ כָּל מְבַלְּעָיִךְ.
יָשיש עָלַיִךְ אֱלהָיִךְ.
Those who despoiled you shall become a spoil, and all who
would devour you shall be far away. Your God will rejoice over
you
Again, it comes to the connection with Hashem that brings back the joy.
I once read a story in Mishpacha Magazine, quoted in an article about the Dee family, by someone named Matti Laufer, who davens in the shul in Efrat where the Dees daven, typifying this joy of Rabbi Dee:
“I prayed next to the Dee family on the last day of Pesach. After the very difficult days our community went through at the beginning of Chag, the Dee family came to shul — standing tall and with their heads held high. I arrive a few minutes before davening starts. The Dee family is already there. Rabbi Leo Dee sees me, and approaches me and offers me a warm and loving hug, and wishes me a Chag Sameach.
“But still, in the shul you still feel the complex between the depression and the joy. The chazzan struggles to find the balance to respect the community atmosphere. He keeps breaking up. It’s hard. He gets up to Hallel. First stanza — not sung. Maybe the chazzan doesn’t feel up to singing. Maybe the next part... Second stanza, “B’tzeis Yisrael miMitzrayim” — the chazzan does not sing. I am beginning to feel the mourning, I am beginning to understand that we won’t be singing the last Hallel of Pesach. Sadness, pain, real tears.
“But at that moment Rabbi Leo gets up from his seat and moves quickly toward the chazzan. Rabbi Leo gently puts his arm around the chazzan, hugs him, and whispers something in his ear. The chazzan looks at Rabbi Leo and immediately begins singing that lifts the soul to lofty heights. “Mah lecha hayam ki tanus!” From then on, we sing. We sing together all of Hallel.
“What did Rabbi Leo tell him? I approached the chazzan after the tefillah and asked if he was willing to share with me. Rabbi Leo told him, ‘Please, make it joyous.’ And yes it was — happy, and a little sad. But mostly, mostly… comforting.”
The happiness that Rabbi Dee is able to find through his connection to Hashem is a theme of Pesach. A recent song by the singer Shmuel (we are big fans in my family!) which he wrote about the war in Israel, connects this theme perfectly to Pesach:
תמיד הלכנו אחריך במדבר
תמיד הלכנו גם בגשם
לא סתם עזבנו את הבית המוכר
חצינו את הגשר
אין מה לדאוג
ואין להתייאש
כל עוד אנחנו פה
רק לשמוח יש
עברנו את הים
נעבור גם את זה
הקדוש ברוך הוא יותר גדול מזה
We always went after You in the desert
We always went after You, even in the rain
We didn’t simply abandon the familiar house
We crossed the bridge
There’s nothing to worry about
And there’s no giving up
As long as we are still here
There’s only what to be happy about
We passed through the sea
We will pass through this too
The Holy One, blessed be He, is greater than this
The belief in G-d- that He will take care of us- is what allows us to feel happy even during troubled times. As the Jewish people are in battle in Israel as we speak, we are still able to sit down to the seder with happiness. And, as the Jewish people left Egypt with anxiety and worry about the Egyptians who were chasing them, they had joy at the same time. In fact, last week I attended a shiur on haggadah and Rabbi Moshe Tzvi Weinberg asked, Why did Hashem have them rush out of Egypt in the middle of the night? He could have had them leave with majesty and miracles? That anxiety was purposeful. It brings them to become close to G-d which brings happiness.
And, as Shmuel sings in the song above, when the Jews approached the Yam Suf they were terrified. How were they going to ever be able to pass through the sea? We know the famous Midrash (noted in Sotah 37a, and the Mechilta and Pirkei D’Rabbi Eliezer) that the Jewish people were too scared to cross the Yam Suf and וקפץ נחשון תחלה וירד לים וקדשו שמו הגדול לעיני הכל. And Nachshon jumped first and went down (in)to the sea, and His name was holy and great in/to the eyes of everyone. Crossing the sea was terrifying, and yet Nachshon was able to trust in Hashem and jump in. His faith brought the salvation which lead to happiness and to the singing of the joyous שירת הים - song of the sea, we call “אז ישיר”. Only when the Jewish people joined in his belief could they too feel that happiness.
Those of you who have been reading my column for some time know that I often write about the importance of raising our children with Emunah and teaching and modeling for them the power of prayer. As I have written before, studies indicate that people who believe in G-d and pray to Him actually can tolerate pain and difficulty better, have more positive attitudes and are happier. No matter what they go through, they can turn to Hashem and there is always hope, as Rabbi Dee demonstrates daily.
The message of Pesach, as the singer Shmuel notes in his song, can keep us hopeful during difficult times. We will continue to turn to Hashem. Just as He helped us cross the Yam Suf we will “נעבור גם את זה” we will pass through this too, בשמחה .
Advisory Update:
Sixth Grade: Students discussed recess challenges and how to manage them.
Seventh Grade: Students discussed some more real-life scenarios where they need to be “upstanders.”
Eighth Grade: Due to the Holocaust play there was no Advisory this week.
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